If you’re anything like me, I know you keep hearing people say things to you like, “Enjoy it while it lasts,” “it is just a season,” and “you’re going to miss this.” Most of the time when these words are said to you, it sends you into a spiral of mom guilt. You feel selfish and ashamed for losing sight of the blessing that is this time in your life. You immediately coil back and think, you’re probably right, there is a lot about this time in my life that I am going to miss. There are endless moments that you may be forgetting to enjoy because you are preoccupied with trying to keep your house from looking like tornado wreckage. You believe them when they say you’re going to miss this… you know you will.
You will miss the toothless grins, those tiny baby giggles, and the chubby dimpled hand that fits so perfectly into yours. You will miss those round cheeks, the sweet scent of babies breath, their fine, wispy hair, and those wobbly legs learning to walk. You will miss watching their eyes light up and sparkle when they learn something new or the way their head molds into your shoulder in sweet perfection. You will miss that tiny voice saying, “I wuv you mama,” and the funny little ways they mix up their words, like calling sparkles, “farkles.” There are endless things you will miss. It is going to fly by fast, just like they say it will, leaving you longing to relive those sweet memories you hold dearly.
But mama, it’s okay that a part of you longs for just one full nights sleeps. It’s okay that a part of you looks forward to the point where your child can appropriately express their needs and desires to you and you don’t have to guess why they’re crying. It’s okay that you desperately yearn for just a moment of total solitude, with no baby on your hip or toddler tugging on your shirt.
What I’m saying is that it’s okay that you don’t “enjoy every moment.” Because the truth is, you’re not going to miss every part of this season. You are not going to miss the sharp cries of a discontent baby who cannot be consoled. You are not going to miss that moment in the grocery store checkout line when your two year old is throwing an apocalyptic tantrum that makes you want to crawl into a hole and hide. You are not going to miss wanting to cry before your feet even hit the floor because you’re so exhausted and hadn’t even fallen back to sleep from the last moment you soothed your restless baby. You’re not going to miss this.
So the next time someone tells you, “You’re going to miss this,” don’t let it send you into that spiral of guilt. Maybe, just maybe, even let them know that yes, you are going to miss a lot about this season in life, but not this part. You don’t have to enjoy every moment. It doesn’t mean you are ungrateful. It doesn’t mean you don’t recognize your blessings. It means you’re human. So mama, keep enjoying the good stuff, and keep grinding through the bad and the ugly and let it roll…You’ve got this!
- Kassidy K.